Aubrey O’Day Speaks About Her Painful Breakup With Pauly D.: ‘I Had To Go To Bali To Heal’ (Exclusive)

Danity Kane‘s Aubrey O’Day is opening up astir her tumultuous narration with Jersey Shore star Paul “DJ Pauly D” DelVecchio. In an EXCLUSIVE interrogation with HollywoodLife, she revealed their narration — which lasted from 2015 to mid-2017 — was truthful so emotionally distressing that she escaped to a caller state to find herself again. “I had to spell to Bali. I had to heal. I had to get successful a spot that I’m comfy in,” the 38-year-old “Damages” hitmaker confessed portion promoting her caller single, “Couple Goals”, which debuted connected Nov. 21 via Instagram and a nude video connected OnlyFans.

“And I person a wider position of everything. You know, I could instrumentality ownership accountability of, of wherefore I stayed successful thing that was truthful toxic, wherefore I, you know, wherefore I tolerated what I did. I was suffering from like, you know, not loving myself properly,” Aubrey further explained. “And I had to instrumentality attraction of myself and turn and larn and germinate and get to a spot wherever present I tin merchandise this,” she continued, referencing “Couple Goals”.

DJ Pauly D and Aubrey O’Day dated connected and disconnected for astir 3 years (Photo: John Photography/Shutterstock)

“And I’m solely conscionable doing it for me, too, for my fans, and it’s astir the creation and it’s not astir the guy,” the treble platinum signaling creator added. “The opus and words are what I wrote successful my diary astatine the time. I don’t beryllium to anybody but myself.”

While the opus is named “Couple Goals”, the lyrics picture the other and archer the communicative of a feline inspired by Pauly D who doesn’t really attraction astir the pistillate beside him. “Poor, mediocre girl, you deliberation you’ve got the full world, but he’s conscionable giving you the aforesaid show, aforesaid communicative arsenic before,” she sings, addressing the 42-year-old DJ and world star’s caller relationship.

Elaborating connected the inspiration down her lyrics, Aubrey claimed, “He was perpetually cheating connected me. I was dealing with it from the beginning. It was this gaslighting game. Too galore lies and it was making maine sick, tired, unhealthy, depleted, and I started comparing myself to women successful each way. And that’s what girls bash erstwhile they get cheated on.” She added, “It was a tiring exhausting beingness and I’m blessed not surviving it anymore.”

Pauly D antecedently denied cheating allegations by his ex connected his 2019 world series, Double Shot astatine Love with DJ Pauly D & Vinny. “Yeah, I don’t bash that full cheating thing,” helium told a contestant who brought up concerns that helium doesn’t instrumentality relationships seriously. “It’s a discarded of time.”

When helium was pressured astir cheating rumors with Aubrey specifically, helium doubled down connected his connection and called the thought of him cheating “crazy.” Responding to his suitors again, helium firmly explained, “Our narration was connected and disconnected connected and disconnected connected and off. When we were disconnected she did her thing. When I was off, I did my thing. I would never. No point. I don’t judge successful that. I ne'er cheated connected immoderate woman I’ve had successful my life.”

In her chat with HollywoodLife, Aubrey besides revealed wherefore she waited a fewer years to talk connected her “traumatic” narration with Pauly D and merchandise euphony astir the clip successful her life. “I judge that erstwhile you’re going done thing traumatic, particularly nowadays, with words being truthful powerful, you’re liable for thing you say,” she articulately explained. “So, for me, I conscionable truly effort to marque definite that I don’t talk erstwhile I’m inactive affectional astir thing because, God forbid, I accidental thing that I aboriginal regret, oregon I don’t talk with like, the highest levels of my integrity, and past I’m held to it.”

The erstwhile mates reportedly met connected the acceptable of Famously Single, an E! amusement that follows respective celebrities who determination into a location unneurotic to fig retired their romanticist problems and perchance find emotion again. The play aired successful 2016. As a couple, Aubrey and Pauly D appeared connected Season 11 of Marriage Bootcamp: Reality Stars.

As mentioned above, Pauly D gave himself different changeable astatine emotion with his ain world dating show, Double Shot astatine Love with DJ Pauly D & Vinny, successful which helium starred other his Jersey Shore costar, Vinny Guadagnino. The amusement worked retired for Pauly D, arsenic that’s wherever helium met his existent girlfriend, Nikki Hall. Although they did not permission the archetypal play of the amusement together, Nikki returned for Season 2 and stole Pauly’s heart.

That aforesaid year, Aubrey appeared connected Ex connected the Beach, a world dating amusement that she said brought her “back to life” successful a frank Instagram post. “After my past narration with Pauly, it took truthful agelong for maine to heal from the pain, anger, torture, & toxicity that I recovered emotion successful with him,” she wrote portion promoting the series.

As of this writing, Aubrey is single, but she seems to person a affirmative attack to relationships. In an April 7 Instagram post, for instance, she said that existent emotion volition travel to those who acceptable their intentions. “Love is intentional. It’s astir choosing to beryllium brave, vulnerable, and besides communicative astir your boundaries simultaneously. The intent of volition is to grow, physique trust, and deepen your relationships… intimacy,” she wrote alongside a bikini pic connected a Bali beach. “Being intentional paves the mode toward a earthy progression to existent and lasting Love.”